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My Little Dog

My little dog–a heartbeat at my feet.

–Edith Wharton


Tastes & Travel {Valentine’s Day Edition}

Let’s talk love.

I love love. Of all kinds. I love my family, love my friends, and most especially love my husband. {Shout out to my long-distance Valentine: I love you, B!} And, I mean, what is better than a day celebrating this feeling, virtue, commitment? Commitment. That is an essential quality of love. In this light, love is a decision and includes the attributes of patience, kindness, trust, humbleness, selflessness and forgiveness (read: I Corinthians 13). Love is to be celebrated, and is truly a gift from God.

Ok, ok. End of sappy love talk. Time to talk good food. Continue reading

August 28th, 2009

I will never forget meeting Brian a short three years ago. It was not a magical moment; there were not stars in my eyes nor dramatic movie worthy emotions playing in my heart and stomach. I had no idea that my world had completely flipped on its axis and had suddenly changed forever.

But I am so glad it did.

My roommate and I had just moved in to the sorority house (oh how young we were!) for our senior year of college–I was so excited to catch up with friends and celebrate our last and best year at SMU together. And on the day we moved in, across town, two guys she had met at her internship that summer were doing the same. She coordinated dinner plans with them for that night (after a long, HOT day of moving) and I agreed to go with her and meet these guys. We met them at their apartment and after taking in their spectacular view of the Dallas skyline, we headed to Mattito’s for dinner and drinks.

Brian and I spent the entire dinner talking back and forth with hardly a break between the two of us. We bantered easily and bonded over our mutual love of mornings, European travels, and rock climbing adventures. It was a delightful night and I enjoyed his company. That said, I walked away from dinner without a thought of ever seeing him again.

I was wrong.

My roommate, again, coordinated a movie outing just a week later, and that night he asked for my number. The rest is history.


Our first picture together, at an SMU football game.

Brian came home to meet my family over Thanksgiving.

Brian and I’s relationship from that point on mirrored our personalities. We are both decisive and impulsive; adventurous and risk takers (him much more so than I). And we instantly clicked. We did everything together, and still do, and I am so thankful for the equal parts laughter and adventure we share as we live our lives together. Our relationship has changed and developed in the past few years and there is no doubt it will continue to do so, but I thank God every day for the amazing man by my side, and for the day three years ago that he walked in to my life.

 The day we got engaged!

I love you Brian, here’s to many more years of dating, adventures, laughter and love.

Adventures with Abbie

Whether she liked it or not, Abbie was a part of a typical Tochman weekend this past weekend. What does this mean? A LOT of adventures…mostly before noon!

Abbie came in to town this past week for an interview (which she ROCKED!), and to spend time with us…but mainly Froggie, haha! We had a great time! I absolutely LOVE my sister, and I am so thankful for the relationship we have. We have so much fun together, but I also learn so much from her as we talk about life, tough decisions, and our futures. She is very wise and is a true depiction of the phrase “Still waters run deep”. She does not necessarily say a lot, but she is extremely thoughtful in her words and actions and thinks everything through very carefully…basically the opposite of her haphazard sister. Which is one of a million reasons I love her so much!

It’s been a while since she’s been to visit, so we wanted to show her a great time. Friday night we went to Victor Tangos for some tapas and cocktails and enjoyed talking and catching up. It had been a long week for us all, and dinner was a great way to unwind and celebrate the weekend together.

At Victor Tangos.

We woke up around 7:30 on Saturday morning (yikes, I know, but so characteristic for us…poor Abbie!) and went for a 16 mile bike ride…a great way to start the day. After grabbing brunch at our favorite place, Buzzbrews, we decided to go rock climbing. This is one of my favorite things to do with Brian. It was one of our very first dates and always brings back sentimental memories for me…not to mention it is a whole lot of fun! That said, we went to Exposure–a new climbing gym for me, that is comprised of six grain silos–each 110 feet tall–that have been converted in to climbing walls. Yes, quite intimidating upon first glimpse. Brian, of course, scaled the wall to the top with no difficulty whatsoever, and then our friend Patrick followed suit. Abbie and I both did a couple of solid climbs before she decided to do “just one more”. After not  having climbed in 12 years or so, she got all the way to the top!!! 110 feet! I was SO proud…she is incredibly determined and athletic, and she did it!! Of course, I did not want to be the only one not to reach the top, so I took my turn and with (minimal) fear, did the same. I was so happy to have accomplished that feat, and SO PROUD of my little sis for doing the same! What a fun day!

We then went to the pool for the afternoon to relax and after pizza and wine, went home to crash hard that night. Sunday, after a great Church service, we grabbed lunch and took Froggie to the dog park. Abbie was such a proud Auntie watching the pup run around with friends. We also had to celebrate National Ice Cream Day (obviously) by going to Pokey’os, Abbie and I’s favorite frozen treat! Yum! After an afternoon of open houses around Highland Park (another Tochman favorite), we went to Mi Cocina for drinks and dinner.

Ready for the pool!

Long day for the boys.

I had such a great time with Abbie this weekend and loved our talks, abundant laughter, and many adventures. I would be remiss to not mention how much I love seeing the pseudo brother-sister relationship she and Brian have developed, too, and absolutely love my time with my two best friends!

Thanks for the visit, Abs (“Happy”), and I can’t wait for our next weekend together! xoxo.

July 2nd, 2011

I cannot believe Brian and I have been married a year! Time flies.

Everyone says your wedding day is the best day of your life, but in my case, that is absolutely untrue. It was the start to the best time in my life. I loved that day, I was so happy to be able to celebrate with everyone I love, but I am most thankful for the marriage I have experienced since that day, and continue to experience and appreciate even more as time passes. I do, however, have so many vivid and amazing memories from that day that I will cherish forever.

I’ll never forget how I felt, waking up last year…at 5:45am. I was too excited and anxious to sleep in! I loved having breakfast with my Mom, Dad and Abbie. It was simple, sweet and a very needed calm minute before the craziness that was about to ensue. I went down to meet all of my bridesmaids to get ready, and had an absolute blast getting hair and make up done with the most important ladies in my life. And thanks to Tylie, we had awesome music to set the mood!

The whole morning was joyful and light-hearted, I had no nerves at all. And with a simple text from Brian around noon to say he was excited and feeling better (his bout of the stomach flu that week was NOT fun!), I was SO ready to see my groom at the end of the aisle!

I got dressed, and I remember the joint effort (largely my mom, Abbie, and Meredith) tackling the buttons down the back of my dress. Then, it was time to see my Dad for the first time. I had waited my whole life for the memories I would have this day, with him. And he did not disappoint! He gave me a hug and instantly, I felt like Daddy’s little girl playing dress up like I had so many times before.

But this time was different. He escorted me to the car that would take us to the Chapel. I’ll never forget the sight of my two handsome brothers “guarding” the Groomsmen door so Brian would not see me as we left the hotel. I love how awesome they both were that day…and every day! A girl could not ask for better big brothers, I am certain.

My parents rode with me to the Chapel and, for the very first time, nerves fluttered in my stomach. I was anxious and excited…I was ready! My Bridesmaids joined us and we spent the last few minutes before the ceremony laughing together. I love my girls so much and am so thankful each of them was apart of this special day!

We lined up, and one by one, I watched them walk down the aisle. I remember Abbie looking back before she walked, and I got a huge lump in my throat. As I watched my baby sister walk through the door, the realization that my immediate family was about to drastically change became abundantly real. I gripped my Dad’s arm, and looked up at him through tears in my eyes. It was a bittersweet moment, one I will never forget. He saw right through the tears, held me closer, and began to walk me to the door.

I remember the moment I saw Brian. The bittersweet sentiment completely dissipated, and I was so incredibly excited. He looked so handsome, he took my breath away. And we began to walk. The closer we got, the more ready I was to be by his side. For life. And that is exactly what we promised each other. I loved our traditional vows, the verses from 1 Corinthians that were read, and Michelle singing “Be Thou My Vision”. I am so grateful for the vows our parents took with us; to be ever for our marriage, and to never come between us. I loved our Pastor’s comparison of marital love to that of a mother’s, and I loved that his charge to us was to love each other through our commitment, and not only through romance.

I’ll never forget the elation of being pronounced as Brian’s wife and experiencing those first few–very surreal–moments of married life together, with our wedding party and families. I remember “Party Rocking” all night long with all of our family and friends and having the time of my life with everyone Brian and I love so dearly! Our first dance to “Everything”, our last dance to “At Last”, asking my Dad to dance with me, and crying during Abbie’s heartfelt toast. I remember looking around the room and being struck by the beauty of it all, not a detail overlooked. It was exactly how I envisioned it: tons of candles and gorgeous floral arrangements, all thanks to my mom’s incredible hard work.

I loved seeing everyone that has meant so much to Brian and I individually, celebrating with us together. And I just loved all of the dancing. I could have danced all night!

I will never forget all of the laughter shared, the love felt, and most importantly, the commitment made between Brian and I.

It was the perfect day. But it does not compare to the year that we have had since. We have had so many wonderful adventures, we’ve had trials to overcome, we’ve had lessons learned, fights, tears, laughter and joy. And our love has grown exponentially through it all. I am so blessed to be sharing my life with my best friend and I look forward to many more years, many anniversary celebrations to come.

I love you, Brian. Happy Anniversary!

You’re My Everything


Dear Mama

Two days late, but I want to wish you a very Happy Birthday! You are one of my best friends, and I never take for granted our relationship, our daily chats, your wise advice, and our many wonderful memories together. You are truly the most selfless person I know, and your steadfast faith, fierce devotion to your family, and consistently ready encouragement for others is astounding to me. I love how comforting you are no matter what crisis I may be in; I love the perspective you shed on every situation, and the wit you provide just when I need a laugh. I love that you are a Jersey transplant, that you have moved so many times, yet do not like change. I love that you are a “Good Girl” and your conscience is as big as all outdoors. I love that you are a huge fan of college football, and an even bigger fan of all your kids. I love that you challenge me in my faith, and I love that you support me in all of my endeavors. I love that now that I am a wife, I can relate to you on a whole new level, and I know that when I become a mom, this will become increasingly true.

I love your generous and thoughtful nature, and I love your creative flair. I love that you are incredibly smart, and I am so thankful for all of the nights you stayed up with me: proof-reading, studying, or quizzing me over material. I love your gorgeous smile, and I love that it radiates from your beautiful heart. You are an amazing mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, aunt, and most recently, Gigi. I love the way Saffryn and Pierce adore you and it makes me excited for days in the future to see you with my own children.

I love everything about you, Sweet Mama, and I am so thankful God gave me you to learn from and lean on. You are the best, and I hope your birthday was as amazing as you.

Love always,

Your Little Girl